How to Contact a Loved One Who Has Passed Away (ADC)

by Ryan Hart | Updated on September 16, 2023 | Post may contain affiliate links. As an Amazon Associate we earn from qualifying purchases.

Talking with deceased loved one

In this post I’m going to reveal how to contact a loved one who has passed away, also known as After Death Communication (ADC).

If you’ve recently lost someone close to you my hope is that I can show you how to get in touch with them.

Plus, at the end of this article I will share the 10 best crystals for grief and healing.

Are you ready to learn more?

Let’s get started!

After Death Communication

10 Powerful Ways to Communicate with a Deceased Loved One

The first thing I want to mention is that trying contact a loved one who has passed away is normal.

Talking to the dead shouldn’t make you feel strange or like you’re losing your mind.

The fact is, lots of people do it after they lose a loved one.

Researchers have found that one of the most common ways to cope with grief is through talking outloud to the dead.

Now that we’ve cleared that up, here’s how to communicate with the deceased:

1. Pray and Meditate

The best way to stay in touch with a deceased loved one is through prayer and meditation.

When you lose someone close to you it is normal to feel alone, helpless, lost, and even angry.

The first step to deal with grief is to pray for God’s guidance and grace. Our relationship with God is built on our ongoing conversation through prayer. Prayer is when we talk to God and mediation is when we listen.

After prayer we must meditate on God’s word and listen for his instructions. During meditation you may hear God’s voice or see evidence of angels in your presence.

2. Include Them in Your Daily Activities

An easy way to make contact with a deceased loved one is by talking outloud to them during your day-to-day activities.

It’s simple, but effective. Tell them what you are thinking and what your plans are for the rest of the day.

If you do not live alone it might feel strange talking to the dead when others can hear you. In this case, rather than talking directly to your deceased loved one, you can share stories about them with those that you live with.

For instance, while you’re making dinner you could say “John loved it when I made him roast beef. How about we make that for dinner tonight in his memory…”

3. Schedule a Call with a Trusted Medium

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to the dead yourself, I suggest scheduling a call with a trusted medium that can get in touch with your loved one.

There is no reason you should have to go through the grieving process alone. Talking to someone on the phone or through an online chat box about what you are going through can take some of the weight off your shoulders.

Before you call, I recommend preparing a few questions in advance. Here’s a list of the best questions to ask a medium.

4. Call Their Old Phone Number and Leave a Voicemail

When you want to talk to your loved one, why not call their old phone number? If their service has not yet been disconnected you can call and leave them a voicemail.

Even if their phone number is no longer active, no worries. Just talking into your phone to them can be a comfortable and familiar experience.

What should you say when you call them?

Share some exciting news or let them know about your plans for the weekend.

5. Talk to their Photograph

I will admit that talking to yourself while trying to get in contact with a deceased loved one can feel strange.

I suggest talking to their photograph to make it feel more personal and intimate. When you can see their face it will bring you closer together.

It may be emotionally overwhelming at first to look at their photograph and have a conversation with them. In the beginning just looking at their picture may be enough to make a connection with them.

Over time you may get more comfortable talking to their picture and sharing your thoughts.

You can use any picture you wish, not just a photo of them just before they passed. For some people they do not want to remember their loved one in the condition they were in on their deathbed. It’s just too difficult.

Instead, feel free to choose a photo from when they were younger or a photo from a special occasion or vacation.

6. Write a Letter or Journal Your Thoughts

Another great way to make contact with the dead is by writing them a letter periodically. You could send them a letter every week, month, or once a year.

What you do with the letter is up to you. You might keep them in a drawer, give them to a friend, or toss them in the fireplace.

If writing is your thing, consider starting a journal where you can keep a record of your thoughts during the grieving process. A journal is a great place to record memories of your loved one so they are never forgotten.

7. Post a Message on Your Social Media Page

Communicating with the dead doesn’t have to be a private experience. You can post a message to your loved one on your Facebook profile or on their Facebook profile “wall.”

A public social media post can be a great way for others to send their messages to the deceased as well in the comments section.

Imagine how special it would be if dozens of people shared their memories. photos, or messages in one Facebook post where you could look back on year after year.

8. Send Them a Private Facebook Message or Email

On the other hand, if you prefer to keep your messages more private, you could send them a Facebook message to their legacy Facebook profile. Send them a message anytime you are thinking about them or want to include them in what you are up to.

Then, you will have an ongoing thread where you can see all the past messages you’ve sent to your loved one.

Not only is this a great way to make contact with the deceased, this is also a special place to look back on what you were thinking during the grieving process.

9. Send them a Quick Text Message

Let’s be honest, some things are easier said with an emoji, am I right?

Send your deceased loved one a text when you are thinking about them or want to check in.

Imagine they are out of town for work. Send them a text and ask how their day is going or share something funny that happened.

The key is to use the communication method that is most natural to you and feels right.

10. Visit them at the Cemetery

Last but not least, an effective way to talk to a loved one is to visit them at the cemetery, burial site, or where their ashes are spread.

Consider visiting them on special occasions such as their birthday, holidays, anniversary or other meaningful dates.

You can go alone or with other family members that want to communicate with their deceased loved one as well.

What to Say When You Talk to the Dead

So now that you know it’s completely healthy and normal to talk to the dead, what should you say?

Here a few icebreakers to get the conversation started:

  • Say "Good morning" or "good night"
  • Say "I love you"
  • Tell them what you've been up to
  • Give them general life updates
  • Tell them a story
  • Reminisce about an old memory
  • Ask for help or advice
  • Tell them about your bereavement
  • Share your biggest regrets
  • Express your anger

10 Best Healing Crystals for Grief

1. Lepidolite

Lepidolite is a calming stone that is symbolic of transition and peace. It can be found in pink and purple shades. This is one of the best crystals for healing a broken heart.

2. Amethyst

Amethyst has been used for centuries to perform rituals and connect with spirits. Use it as a symbol of new beginnings and transformation in your life. The beautiful purple or lavender color tones make it a perfect centerpiece in bracelets or pendants.

Click here to see 8 more healing crystals for grief

Now It's Your Turn

And now I’d like to hear from you.

Do you believe the dead can hear us when we talk to them?

Have you ever tried to communicate with a deceased loved one?

Either way please let me know by leaving a comment below.

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